Monday, March 17, 2008

Who Am I?

Over the past few months, I've been somewhat contemplating my Meyer-Briggs Assessment. For most of my adult life, I've always tested as an ISTJ and for the most part have been that. But more recently, I can see that I'm not nearly as disciplined or refined as most ISTJ's I know. In my assessment, I'm totally an I, totally a J and mostly a T. My S/N is completely borderline, and I think I may have somewhere over the past couple of years crossed over to an N. Here's a little description of both:

The Portait of the Inspector (ISTJ)

Inspector Guardians look carefully and thoroughly at the people and institutions around them. Making up perhaps as much as ten percent of the general population, Inspectors are characterized by decisiveness in practical affairs, are the guardians of institutions, and if only one adjective could be selected, "superdependable" would best describe them. Whether at home or at work, Inspectors are nothing if not dependable, particularly when it comes to examining the people and products they are responsible for-quietly seeing to it that uniform quality is maintained, and that those around them uphold certain standards of attitude and conduct.

These quiet, no-nonsense Guardians have a distaste for and distrust of fanciness in speech, dress, and living space. Their words tend to be simple and down-to-earth, not showy or high-flown; their clothes are often homespun and conservative rather than of the latest fashion; and their home and work environments are usually neat, orderly, and traditional, rather than up-to-date or luxurious. In their choice of personal property (cars, furnishings, jewelry, and so on) price and durability are just as important as comfort or appearance. Classics, antiques, and heirlooms are especially valued, having achieved a certain time-honored status-Inspectors prefer the old-fashioned to the newfangled every time. Even on vacation, Inspectors tend not to be attracted by exotic foods, beverages, or locales.

Their thoroughness and orderliness, combined with their interest in legality and standardization, leads Inspectors to a number of occupations that call for the careful administration of goods and services. Inspectors feel right at home with difficult, detailed forms and columns of figures, and thus they make excellent bank examiners, auditors, accountants, and tax attorneys. Managing investments in securities is likely to interest this type, particularly investments in municipal bonds and blue-chip securities. Inspectors are not likely to take chances either with their own or others' money, and the thought of a bankrupt nation, state, institution, or family gives them more than a little uneasiness. The idea of dishonoring a contract also bothers an Inspector -their word is their bond-and they naturally communicate a message of trustworthiness and stability, which can make them successful in business. With their eye for detail, Inspectors make good business men and women, librarians, dentists, optometrists, legal secretaries, and law researchers. High school and college teachers of business administration, home economics, physical education, civics, and history tend to be Inspectors, as do quartermaster officers in the military.

Queen Elizabeth II, Harry S. Truman, Warren Buffet, Queen Victoria, James K. Polk,
and J.D. Rockefeller are examples of Inspector Guardians.



Here is the INTJ:

The Portait of the Mastermind (INTJ)

Of the four aspects of strategic analysis and definition, it is the contingency planning or entailment organizing role that reaches the highest development in Masterminds. Entailing or contingency planning is not an informative activity, rather it is a directive one in which the planner tells others what to do and in what order to do it. As the organizing capabilities the Masterminds increase so does their inclination to take charge of whatever is going on.

It is in their abilities that Masterminds differ from the other Rationals, while in most of their attitudes they are just like the others. However there is one attitude that sets them apart from other Rationals: they tend to be much more self-confident than the rest, having, for obscure reasons, developed a very strong will. They are rather rare, comprising no more than, say, one percent of the population. Being very judicious, decisions come naturally to them; indeed, they can hardly rest until they have things settled, decided, and set. They are the people who are able to formulate coherent and comprehensive contingency plans, hence contingency organizers or "entailers."

Masterminds will adopt ideas only if they are useful, which is to say if they work efficiently toward accomplishing the Mastermind's well-defined goals. Natural leaders, Masterminds are not at all eager to take command of projects or groups, preferring to stay in the background until others demonstrate their inability to lead. Once in charge, however, Masterminds are the supreme pragmatists, seeing reality as a crucible for refining their strategies for goal-directed action. In a sense, Masterminds approach reality as they would a giant chess board, always seeking strategies that have a high payoff, and always devising contingency plans in case of error or adversity. To the Mastermind, organizational structure and operational procedures are never arbitrary, never set in concrete, but are quite malleable and can be changed, improved, streamlined. In their drive for efficient action, Masterminds are the most open-minded of all the types. No idea is too far-fetched to be entertained-if it is useful. Masterminds are natural brainstormers, always open to new concepts and, in fact, aggressively seeking them. They are also alert to the consequences of applying new ideas or positions. Theories which cannot be made to work are quickly discarded by the Masterminds. On the other hand, Masterminds can be quite ruthless in implementing effective ideas, seldom counting personal cost in terms of time and energy.

Alan Greenspan, Ben Bernanke, Dwight D. Eisenhower, General Ulysses S. Grant, Frideriche Nietsche, Niels Bohr, Peter the Great, Stephen Hawking, John Maynard Keynes, Lise Meitner", Ayn Rand and Sir Isaac Newton are examples of Rational Masterminds.

It's a little crazy that one letter can make such a big difference, but I feel like I'm not strongly either, but may have made the shift. Either way, I'm just plain crazy. There's no if's, and's or but's about it. I've highlighted in each what I'm most like. If you think I'm wrong, have at it! Sometimes, I scare myself.

(Both descriptions can be found at www.Keirsey.com)

Happy St. Patty's Day!

My mother always told me I should wear orange on St. Patrick's Day because I'm Scottish. I like orange, but green is my favorite color. I have no problem finding something clean that's green in my laundry, so today I'm wearing green!! Plus, I'm really in the mood for spring, so green is a color I'm happy to wear!

The girls just made me a "gourmet" lunch. They set the table and made a fruit salad consisting of grapes, apple and carrots, peanut butter sandwiches, mini Pringles, cheese curls and a dessert of rice krispy treats. This is what happens when we run out of food! Hehe... but it was fun. They cleaned up the kitchen - and that's all that really matters!!

OK - off to pick up Kt's meds, the dogs, and get some laundry done so we can head up to Connecticut tomorrow for the rest of our spring break. Once there, I'm just going to relax!

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Retreat Recap

This past weekend, we had the joy of hanging out on our spring high school retreat. It's hard for me to fathom that my own last high school retreat was 20 years ago!! Our kids stay at this really cool retreat place on the North Chesapeake Bay, complete with a high ropes course, climbing walls, gym, plenty of space, nice rooms, great food.... it was amazing! T and I and the girls stayed in a hotel like dorm - the girls even had their own room.

As we roamed around on an incredibly beautiful day yesterday, so many juxta posed thoughts went through my head. I'm sad to see some of our favorite seniors head off to college soon, but so excited for where they are headed. I'm so scared to send these kids into the world, yet so hopeful for the future because of them. Their silliness makes me roll my eyes, their enormous amount of potential to impact the world for Christ overwhelms me. I'm just amazed that they let us into their world, I'm honored.

I wish that I could share more than just a glimpse with you of just how important they are to us. What high schoolers do you know - more than 150 - who would embrace a group of leaders in their 30's? I mean embrace, encourage, thank, love... in a way that makes me feel like I'm just inadequate as a friend! We are so blessed year after year with a group of kids like this.

Twenty years after high school there are so many things I would have loved to have shared with them, but it was their weekend, their youth, their time to process life at their level. T did a session with them on creating, embracing, possibility and then creating. We spent a lot of last week talking through his session, thinking of worthwhile things to share, trying to shape something that would resonate with teenagers. It was really a message from T's heart, to speak into the hearts of kids that in our life here on earth, we matter and we make a difference. These are the kids who have the influence to shape culture.

One of our senior interns chose to get baptized on this trip, in the frigidly cold bay. It was really an amazing event and the people who shared about her and her impact on their worlds really speaks to the quality of kids we are launching out to the world. As she came up out of the water, I was imagining that the ripples she created were much like the ripples she will create in the world, the reach she will have because she's totally sold out, engaging and applying all that we've invested in her. More importantly, all that Christ means to her - and she's taking it with her into the world. It's some great imagery and some incredible energy.

So, to the kids in cpr who even bother to read the blog of a 30 something leader's wife, just know that we don't consider any of our time spent with you or given to you a sacrifice. It's more than an honor and our pleasure that you allow us to influence you in even small ways, that you are interested in being invested in, and the hope that you give us creates an unspeakable joy in our hearts. We do it for Him, and we think you get that. What we give to you does not even compare to what we've received - you've touched our hearts forever and we're happy that you keep us at least a little young!! Just know that God uses you in our lives and we thank you for your authenticity in His name.


thanks!

Friday, March 14, 2008

Sick World

While we're on the subject of sick.... are we now glorifying the call girl/prostitute that took down New York's governor??? I'm just completely appalled that she's all over the news, getting the press she wants, all while that family is falling apart. Have some decency, news outlets, and give that mom and three daughters whose lives were just torn apart a break!! Oh, for shame!

Sick Sandwich

No, I'm not planning on getting you sick before lunch! Just a brief recap of my week... Monday - sick child, Tuesday - work, Wednesday - sub, Thursday - work, Friday - sick child. My week is a sick sandwich. Now I'm off to shower and take care of a child with a cold all day!

Suing Proponents of Global Warming

So, the founder of the Weather Channel is proposing a law suit to sue proponents, such as Al Gore, about global warming. Apparently, these proponents are unwilling to enter into a debate about the existence of global warming, instead "scamming" the world into literally buying into their theory of global warming. I think he has a valid point here and I'll be following this story.

In essence, the global warming propaganda may have a very negative impact on the environment should it be proven to be wrong. That GW proponents have been very strong in their criticism of environmental issues, all in the name of an unproven theory. The sad thing is that many of their suggestions would have a positive environmental impact and should not be discarded. But should they be proven wrong, especially in a high profile court suit, the impact could be devastating for them and their suggestions, which may be discarded after a heavy hit.

Really, without the global warming scare tactic, we really do need to be better stewards of God's creation, looking for alternative forms of energy, reducing waste, and being more aware of the impact humankind has on nature. We owe it to ourselves, but more importantly to our children, to do all those things and more. We need to be forward thinkers when it comes to environmental impact. Global warming aside, Al Gore gone, what can we do to improve life on earth for future generations?

Passover/Easter....

So... I've been having a problem with this Passover and Easter not coinciding this year. I don't understand all the intricacies of how they "choose" when certain holidays will fall, but these two are supposed to happen together in my mind. At least they did in the Bible, with great historical and religious significance.

Passover is the Jewish holiday where the Jews in Egypt painted the blood of Passover lamb over their doorposts so that the Angel of Death would passover their homes when he came through the land to take the firstborn, the tenth plague. After that plague, when all the Egyptians woke up to find their firstborn sons dead, the pharaoh let the Israelites leave Egypt - he freed them.

The very first Easter, Jesus entered Jerusalem on what Christians call Palm Sunday, which is the Sunday before Easter. He was arriving for the Passover festival, which lasts a week. His Last Supper was a Passover Feast and he rose from the dead, or conquered the Angel of Death, on the last day of Passover.... no coincidence there. It was planned that way by God, although I'm not sure that modern Jewish culture recognizes the significance of the two events happening exactly the way they did.

So, back to 2008... just doesn't seem right to me! Easter with no Passover!

Thursday, March 13, 2008

Mathematical Mess!

I have a difficult time with panel findings that suggest that we, in the US, "typically cover too many topics without enough depth." They discovered this after researching why our *test scores* are so much lower than over countries around the world. Well, let me help you out, oh wise panel. Why do we teach soooo many topics without any depth??? Because we give *standardized tests* to see how our students are doing compared with the rest of the world in March/April.... and those tests covers a *wide range* of topics that teachers are told to cover before the *test* so that kids will do better on the *test*. We aren't teaching kids math, we're teaching them how to do better on a *standardized test* - THAT'S WHY WE ARE FALLING BEHIND!!!!! Just had to get that out!!

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Have Learned Nothing!

I feel, in a way, that I'm back to square one here. With everything I have on my plate and my attempts this year to simplify and say "no" to more things, I found myself just not able to function with MBS at 7:30 this morning. For those of you who don't know, that's just way too early for me! I was sound asleep, awoken abruptly by a call for help. Those are the kinds I just can't seem to decline.

To make matters even worse, my husband, also sound asleep, even though his alarm had already gone off, didn't bother to lie for me. I guess under any other circumstances I would have preferred he not lie, but this time I really needed him to tell this person that I was not here - I mean, they would believe that, right?? OK, I'm stretching a bit!

Anyway, I had plans for today - gym, laundry, visit my cousin's new boutique (more on that later!), sign Kt up for tennis camp, pick up more essential groceries, clean up a bit around here..... instead, I ended up subbing for mother's day out. Why? Because when she said, "Are you free to sub today? I'm in a bind." I could not for the life of me think of one good reason I could not sub. At least not one that would mean anything to anyone, and I just couldn't lie. I'm, what my husband so lovingly refers to me as, a sucker.

So, my day just added to my mushy brain... morning/early afternoon spent with 2 year olds, direct flight from there to new boutique, home for a 25 minute break before the girls got home, homework, gymnastics, 15 minutes for dinner, off to Girls Grace Adventure.... home to again sit around comatose, brain dead and wondering how I'll get everything done, now that I have to work tomorrow.

Well, at least the boutique was fun, fun, fun!!

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Back to that Mush...

I've been thinking about this a lot lately, because T is doing all this Strengthfinders stuff. One of my strengths is responsibility, and right now that one is really leading me down the path to a major coronary! I just hate it when things are left unresolved. Whether it be something someone did without explanation, a task I'm responsible for that cannot be resolved right this minute or something I just have no control over yet feel attached to for some reason. I turn to mush when too many things I'm responsible for are hanging in the balance. It's a monster of my own creation and it seems a life I'm destined for!! Now I just have to go back and read through all that responsibility stuff in that book to find out how to get out of this mush!

M.B.S.

I started this post about 5 minutes ago... just as a message flashed up on screen: "There are other people logged onto this computer. Are you sure you want to shut down?" Then, black screen. I was thinking to myself, "What just happened??" as I realized my chair was depressing the power button..... therefore, proving once again that I do, in fact, suffer from Mushy Brain Syndrome!

This happens to me 1) when things that don't normally happen happen (like Em staying home from school yesterday, knocking off my whole weekly schedule, and T forgetting to cancel our babysitter so we were completely dumbfounded when someone entered our house during dinner last night!), 2) when I have too many things going on at one (sick kids, messed up travel plans, work, Girls Grace Adventure, interviews this week for the new Children's Ministry director, going on retreat, going to CT for spring break, neighbors complaining to me about my child who is doorbell ditching!), and 3) when I realize that I'm getting older and I just can't hold everything up in my head as well as I used to!

Today, after spending last night trying to figure what to do about Vienna, for the 4th night in a row!, I went off to work. I could barely wake up this morning and never once thought I might be forgetting anything!! It wasn't until T was telling me about his day and his meeting at church that something foggy started to appear in my mushy brain. He said something like, "I showed up at church at the same time all these Connections women were leaving....." and it hit me. I read through my chapter last night, finished up my questions and was all set to go to that this morning... just like I do every Tuesday morning. What shocked me was that I did not even once, until he said, even think about Connections, or the fact that it was Tuesday. I made it to work, so I must have known.... but I have no idea why the other commitment never registered.

I'm officially mush.

Monday, March 10, 2008

HELP!

It's been almost a week now of researching, calling, bugged out eyes looking for a place for a group of 26 to stay in Vienna for cheap!! Most of the hostiles we've called won't help us, hotels are outrageously expensive and we are beginning to think we're running out of options. It's difficult to believe that we can't find even one reasonably priced place to stay in Vienna. Except that the dollar has taken a huge dive and we just can't swim against that current anymore. Pray for us!

Murphy's Law

I was rearing to go this morning... Had my bathing suit ready to go for some pool time. Then, late last night (or early this morning?) Em threw up. I had visions instantly of days home, everyone getting sick, missing a week of school, the gym... Kt also woke up with a sore throat and swollen tonsils again. Note to self: don't dwell ever again on the thought that your family has remained healthy while the stomach flu and regular flu are raging through every other family you know!!

Anyway, I'm hoping for the best! Maybe a false alarm? Em has been fine since she was sick. She just finished breakfast, and while I'm keeping her home today we are wondering if the sour cream she ate last night with our take out Mexican food was bad. She was the only one who ate it, and from all the descriptions of the strain of stomach flu going around now, she definitely doesn't fit that bill.

Kt went off to school, albeit unwillingly. Not because of her throat, but just because she's in that "if we're a free country, why should I have to go to school" stage. It's getting a little old around here. I completed my diatribe on how because we're a free country you GET to go to school (all parents must do this!) and sent her on her way.

Here I am, sitting around all day with my "sick" Bindi. I was laughing yesterday because her "lizzie" - the purple gummy lizard - is now taped in the middle and apparently has been stuck to her ceiling twice now!! That's no way to treat a venemous lizard! LOL At least she still uses her gloves! ;-)

Sunday, March 09, 2008

To Hungary and Beyond!

Always an adventure - actually putting our plan into action... and asking fellow laborers for some support! Here is the support letter... Yup, we're crazy. and we know it! ;-) You're invited to join us~

Make sure you put in your supporter's letter that you blessed many families in immeasurable ways. Let them know that your team invested not only their time and resources, but their whole hearts to serve the families of Christian Associates. We are so grateful for all that your supporters have given so that we could be blessed!

~MR, serving in France

Dear friends, family, faithful supporters and anyone else who is receiving this!

It has been nearly a year since we initiated realizing a dream of ours – to serve Christ together as a family in some capacity outside of the US, our comfort zone. Many of you, I’m sure, remember receiving our letter last year, maybe wondering if we were out of our minds! If that’s what you were thinking, you may wonder again as we are hoping to return this year in the same capacity as last only with the added responsibility of being the sole team in charge of providing a full fledged children’s program for this amazing group of church planters in Europe.

Our trip last year was a growing and learning experience in so many ways. We had opportunities to connect with families who had given up their comfy homes in the US to serve in some of the most spiritually darkened places in Europe. We learned of the struggles they had adjusting to new cultures, languages, and the obvious disdain for America amidst the Iraq war. But even more apparent to us was the effect this had on their children, referred to as third culture kids, as they try to comprehend the passion their parents have for the lost in Europe as that relates to their roots, their socialization and their futures. Providing a short escape from the often stressful and uncertain lives of church planters was so much more important, and took so many various forms, than any of us had realized.

This summer, as part of SPACE [Students Prepared to Act for Christ’s Empire] - Grace’s student ministry mission component, we are returning to serve in Sopron, Hungary during Christian Associates International [www.christianassociates.org] annual staff conference. We will be traveling from July 22 to August 3 with a total team of 26 students and leaders, architecting an experience for the kids of CAI staff. While the opportunity to serve CAI and their kids is immensely rewarding, we also know that this environment is a real time laboratory for our students to learn about global cultures, leadership development and creating Kindgom threads out of nothing.

Of course, we can’t do this all alone and we would love your prayers and financial support. You can pray for our leadership, that the students on our team would create the future and that our children would continue to live lives bigger than themselves. You could also pray for our other SPACE teams for this summer – Baltimore, New Orleans, England and Cameroon. Financially, we need to raise $10,000 for our family of four and your financial support would also be a huge blessing. There are two ways you can financially support our team. First, you may send a check in the enclosed envelope with the response card. Please make checks payable to Grace Community Church and in the note section please specify, "SPACE Hungary - Shengs". You may also contribute via the Internet, by clicking the "Online Giving!" link at the top of the Grace Church webpage - http://www.gcconline.org. Click the "eGive" link and after entering the appropriate donor and bank information, fill in the amount for "Short Term Missions" and specify for "SPACE Hungary - Shengs".

Thank you so much for your support and prayers. We have huge expectations for this team traveling to Hungary with us – that they will serve and sacrifice for many this summer and that the spiritual climate of Europe will be different because of many of them.

I don't know if y'all realize just how much you give to us in coming to serve. Our first year, we were beaten down, discouraged, frustrated, humbled and broken. We were also grown, stretched, challenged and provided for in ways we could never imagine. The gift you gave us was a chance to process this stuff for significant periods of time, knowing our kids were entertained, safe and above all LOVED. It's hard to express how much the week at conference means to us-how much we look forward to it each year. Knowing that there are people there who believe in what we are doing and are willing to encourage us in that is amazing. THANK YOU!!!!!

~MR

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~The Shengs

Hungary 2008

P.S.

Oh, and daddy. One more thing. Do you remember your last words to me.... "Keep yourself busy." I've been working on that. T was in the middle of taking the class Perspectives on the World Christian Movement when you died, and from that was birthed an idea that God has blessed year after year. He has spent the last 5 years developing missionally minded high school leaders, taking them on cross cultural missions trips and launching them into the world with a more globalized view of God's intent for all the nations of the world. We call it SPACE, or Students Prepared to Act for Christ's Empire.

After several years of him taking groups out of the country each summer, we finally realized our own dream of exposing your granddaughters to another culture outside of the US. We took them to serve a church planting missions organization and they met tons of missionary kids and families from all over Europe. They are both THRILLED to go back this year, although Kt's heart is really leaning towards that old dream of hers... to go to Africa.

I just thought you might like to know what kind of legacy you've left here on earth. Your sister sent me your old freshman initiation beenie from Kings, and mommy begged me to throw that old thing away. I just kind find it in my heart to do that, because it reminds me of your commitment to follow Christ in whatever circumstances He led you into. Of your heart to serve others and your devotion to His body of believers. Eventually I'll have to give to mommy (you know how that is!), but for now I'm just so incredibly thankful that God gave me you as a dad.

Of course, I'm wishing right now that those streets of gold were shippable because we have quite a daunting task ahead, raising funds to take a whole family overseas. But right now, that beenie reminds me that God does bigger things than we could ever dream and our worries are all in vain. I know our task is larger than life right now, but eventually it's fruition will be realized, either this summer or in the years to come in Europe and beyond.

California Tortilla Warning!

We have one of these fast food Mexican joints in our area. We love their food, but we have this one problem - they cannot get a single "To Go" order correct! We've only had minor issues when we eat in, but when we take out, it's always a mess. Over Christmas break, my brother went there with 6 orders. Only two were correct when he got home! The rest were almost unrecognizable. A spinach burrito with steak on it, chicken tacos with no meat and the best - a children's quesadilla with no queso!! Yup, that's right - they melted two tortillas together with no cheese in between! In fact, there was nothing to speak of in the middle. I wonder how they stayed together!!

T went out tonight to bring us home some California Tortilla, and Kt even told him to make sure her quesadilla had cheese in it. He managed to check that, but not our combination chicken/steak fajitas with no chicken. I sent him back for my chicken because... well, he should have known!! Please, CT, pay more attention to your take out orders!! Or we'll have to resort to Taco Bell!

Saturday, March 08, 2008

Bindi

Em and I watched the wildlife show by Bindi Erwin last night - you know, the crocodile hunter's daughter. It's right up Em's alley! She couldn't stop watching, was totally drawn in and now.... she IS Bindi... She just came into the office here asking me if I wanted to meet "lizzie". She proceeded to sit down, and while taking out some old gloves from her fanny pack informed me that she needed gloves because lizzy is venemous. After putting on her gloves, she pulled out a purple gummy lizard. She is in her element!

Friday, March 07, 2008

I Want to Take That Class!

Looks like Tony Blair will be moving to my beautiful Connecticut, spending days teaching right down the street from my brother! The Prime Minister is heading to Yale New Haven to lead seminars on faith and globalization. Wow. I'm impressed. Of course, what dad would turn down an offer to teach at his child's school??

NightLight

I have a friend whose husband works for the State Department and they are serving right now in Bangkok. I'm always excited to receive her emails with pictures of their travels, their three little girls and also news from their church they are involved in over there. In many ways, their job has afforded them a witness in a foreign land where few would choose to serve, and many families have chosen to use their time in Thailand to make a difference.

My friend has been involved in a ministry of their church, NightLight, which attempts to save women and children from forced slavery. It's an incredible ministry and their efforts have proven very fruitful. This particular cause has received a lot of attention lately, but not nearly enough I'm afraid. Human trafficking is a huge industry and it's practiced all over the world, including in the U.S.

If you have a chance, browse their website - the jewelry is beautiful! Finding profitable alternatives and lifetime trades for the women they save is a priority if they are going to make a difference. Here's an excerpt from their newsletter:

We have been limiting the number of women coming to work at NightLight since the end of last year. One woman who applied for work was on our waiting list. Mid-February she came to us again. This time she got down on her knees begging us for a job. She said she just couldn't handle working at the bar anymore. Although we had tried to hold off new employees we just couldn't turn her down. We accepted her in spite of our limitations. Last week this woman chose to give her life to Christ. Once again God has demonstrated His sovereignty. God brings the women to us. They come for a decent job; they find life. We feel limited in space, in resources, in sufficient work and finances but God promises abundant life and He always keeps His word. He will provide. His heart breaks for the women ready for new life and waiting in the shadows. Sometimes we are slow in responding but God in His mercy acts to save.


Pray for that ministry, if you feel led, and the many others around the world who are dedicated to ending human trafficking.

Thursday, March 06, 2008

Civility

noun
  • formal or perfunctory politeness
  • politeness: the act of showing regard for others


For a couple years now, the county we live in has been touting this "Choose Civility" campaign. I'm not really sure the origin or even the purpose, but many people received these dark green bumper stickers that they proudly display on their cars with that slogan. They make me laugh, or more appropriately snicker, because OBVIOUSLY they've either forgotten that they are wearing them or they have no idea what it means!! Here are some of the things that come to mind when I see one of these bumper stickers:

~ Choose to Drive Without a Cellphone Attached to Your Ear

~ Choose to Practice Civility Instead of Expecting Others to Show it to Undeserving You!

~ Choose Intelligence Instead of Wreckless Driving

~ Choose the Lane of Traffic Which Most Appropriately Suits Your Driving Skills (or Lack Thereof!)

~ Choose to Take Yourself Off the Road Should You Choose Not to Obey Basic Traffic Laws

~ Choose to Signal the Direction You are Going So As to Avoid Being Shown Uncivil Hand Gestures

~ Choose to Not Display a Bumper Sticker That Has Absolutely No Meaning to You Whatsoever

Have I covered everything? Need I explain further?? I didn't think so!!

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

Day of Allergy Reckoning

We FINALLY took Kt for allergy testing so now we can say with confirmation that our daughter is allergic to cockroaches!! Good thing I haven't seen any around our house.... I have, however, seen a lot of dust, and apparently that is a huge problem for her. Here's the ranking:

1. Dust mites - testing more positive than the "positive"

2. Cats - which we could have guessed!

3. Mold - after 2 ER from mold exposure, I could have bet on that one!

4. Soy - which might explain why she got sick when we tried soy formula when she was a baby!

5. Raw egg - another that came to our attention this past year, fortunately, it's just a topical allergy, nothing to change a diet over!

6. Cockroaches - why do they even test for those?? Weird!

7. Dogs - not as bad as cats, but those hives she gets when the dogs come home from the kennel are telltale!

She had this test about 6 hours ago and her dust mite test is the size of a huge welt. She also had another spot on her arm that she said did not become bad until she got to school. I have no idea what that one was for and they didn't tell her the ones that tested negative. I guess we'll never know!

The doctor recommended getting rid of carpet - anyone have $30,000 for us to get some wood floors? I didn't think so! We will likely purchase the wrap for her mattress and pillow. It's the least we can do - LOL. The funny thing is that since we moved to this house I thought she was outgrowing the asthma. I guess this house is just a little less dusty? Sure doesn't seem that way, but I'm glad for her.

I guess someday we'll all have to get some allergy testing done!

So Hard

Em said this to me tonight: You know what is just so hard? Trying to keep your eyes closed all night long!

Future insomniac on our hands I imagine!

Is It for Real?

I will admit that I'm a total skeptic when it comes to global warming. Partly because I don't trust Al Gore one iota! But mostly because it just doesn't seem to be happening the way everyone predicted. I'm also not sure it's going to be quite as devastating as we keep being warned... and it's so darn expensive to "fix" it - which I don't really believe we can do anyway. Of course, articles like this one just cement my skepticism. What say you, Al Gore? I mean, because he's such a scientist and all. Even invented the internet! ;-)

Monday, March 03, 2008

Happy Heavenly Birthday!

In the year that King Uzziah died, I saw the Lord seated on a throne, high and exalted, and the train of his robe filled the temple. 2 Above him were seraphs, each with six wings: With two wings they covered their faces, with two they covered their feet, and with two they were flying. 3 And they were calling to one another:
"Holy, holy, holy is the LORD Almighty;
the whole earth is full of his glory."

4 At the sound of their voices the doorposts and thresholds shook and the temple was filled with smoke.

Isaiah 6:1-4


It was 5 years ago today, oddly on a Monday, that I was awoken after a fitful night of semi-sleep by the stinging ring of the phone at 5:30 am. I was not surprised, but rather felt a rush of relief run over me, while at the same time great sadness. We'd been anticipating this moment for days, weeks, months.... possibly even a couple years. It was the hospital informing us that my father had finally passed from this earthly life into a new realm, known only to us by a few vivid pictures revealed to prophets and followers of Christ - heaven.

My father, by earthly measure, is but a babe walking the streets of gold, sitting at the feet of Christ, joined by those who have gone on ahead of him. While he is so young up there, I marvel to think of the knowledge gained in the first moment in His presence, the peace, the health, the love that must be in that place. The awe, the reverence, the sensory overload. When I think of my dad in heaven I am overwhelmed by the "thing" that was done for me so that I might someday join him. I am filled with humility, thankfulness and every kind of emotion towards a God who chooses to pursue each and every one of His creations to be reconciled through the gift of His son on the cross.

February 22 was my dad's earthly birthday, and while I'll always remember that day, this one is far more important to me now. It's the day we made a very important deposit in Heaven, when our earthly hearts broke and set in place a heavenly mindset unlike I've ever owned before. I would love to have my father here with me again, but in my heart I understand that we were created for an even higher purpose and plan than I can fathom. I cannot attest to the fading memory others have spoken of because for me my father is as clear a memory as if he were still here! His memory now offers me a hope and a future in a place far better than here.

1After this I looked, and there before me was a door standing open in heaven. And the voice I had first heard speaking to me like a trumpet said, "Come up here, and I will show you what must take place after this." 2At once I was in the Spirit, and there before me was a throne in heaven with someone sitting on it. 3And the one who sat there had the appearance of jasper and carnelian. A rainbow, resembling an emerald, encircled the throne. 4Surrounding the throne were twenty-four other thrones, and seated on them were twenty-four elders. They were dressed in white and had crowns of gold on their heads. 5From the throne came flashes of lightning, rumblings and peals of thunder. Before the throne, seven lamps were blazing. These are the seven spirits[a] of God. 6Also before the throne there was what looked like a sea of glass, clear as crystal.

In the center, around the throne, were four living creatures, and they were covered with eyes, in front and in back. 7The first living creature was like a lion, the second was like an ox, the third had a face like a man, the fourth was like a flying eagle. 8Each of the four living creatures had six wings and was covered with eyes all around, even under his wings. Day and night they never stop saying: "Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come." 9Whenever the living creatures give glory, honor and thanks to him who sits on the throne and who lives for ever and ever, 10the twenty-four elders fall down before him who sits on the throne, and worship him who lives for ever and ever. They lay their crowns before the throne and say: 11"You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they were created and have their being."

Revelation 4






Love, Deanna

Dear Daddy,

So much has happened since you've been gone. There's no way I could write it all in one letter, but I'm sure you understand. Here are some of the highlights!

The year you left us, Skyler was born. She was truly a gift from above as she reminded us of the gift of life when our hearts were broken by your death. She was a tiny little peanut - still is! - but with a big, stubborn mind. Her mommy has met her match! The following year she gave us quite a scare, contracting bacterial meningitis. In the backs of our minds, we kept saying to you, "You can't have her! We want to enjoy her for a lifetime!!" We won, and she's still here, ruling the roost down in Savannah.

A couple years later, your first grandson was born. He was NO peanut, let me just tell you! And he's got some lungs to match his stature. Brendan will not be ignored and if S didn't meet her match the first time around, there's back-up! There are so many things about those two that remind us of you. Brendan's love for food and his Lovegren glare. Skyler's intellectual bent and her piercing eyes. There isn't a day that goes by that we don't all wish you'd had the chance to meet them!

On the homefront, I'm doing just what you told me to do. I'm keeping busy! I even pick up odd jobs here and there and every time I read the want ads (like you taught me), I can see your proud, approving smile. I still think I should call you every time we make a big purchase, are expecting a big storm or just want to meet up with mom somewhere. I also still can't believe it when I forget that you're gone. People have told me that would fade, but it really hasn't. Sometimes it just feels like you're right next to me or in the next room (watching TV!). Most of time, I just feel like you're a phone call away.

Speaking of TV. you should see the nice TV you have now - I mean, that your son has! =) He has taken over your remote control and has talked mommy into some pretty nice technology. She even has a laptop now! D & J... well, let's just say that we're all still waiting on Doug. ;-) You remember what that was like, don't you? I might have more news for you in another 5 years!

My girls still miss their Pabu. We've discontinued our stops at Pilot for M&M's, we still check the weather before we venture out and we still enjoy taking turns in Pabu's chair. Kt - you would be so amazed by her. She studying one of your favorite subjects right now - Ancient Egyptian Civilization. She's even using your Pharaoh books! I really wish you were around to help her make a scale model of a pyramid (like the Mount Vernon you made for S;-)). Kt still remembers you dearly and her deepest desire is to make her grandmother move next door so she can take care of (pillage!) her!

Em doesn't remember you so much anymore, but she can recount any number of stories we've told her about you. While she doesn't remember, she is so like you in so many ways it's eerie. Em is intuitively attached to all weather events and stories. She faithfully listens in the morning for temps and is sure to inform each of us of any impending storm warnings. She also has a unique sense of her individuality, keeping firm in her belief that it really doesn't matter what the norms are, she's her own normal. (I keep waiting for her to happily go off to school in inside out shirts or mismatched shoes!) Em also shares the twinkle in your eye - it's the warmest thing on her most days, and my heart leaps when I see it because for me it's a glimpse into my father's eyes.

Finally, mommy. I know she told you that she would never go anywhere ever again without you around, but we've taken it upon ourselves to disprove that prediction. Since you've abandoned her, we've taken her to Disney World (of course!), Hilton Head, California (Disneyland!;-)), D&J to Montreal and other places around here. Most of the time we've driven or flown her.... she pretty much takes us, though! This summer, she's embarking on one of your dreams - and Alaskan cruise. (She turned down a trip to Hungary with us to go for that one!) You would be so proud of her in so many ways. Actually, you'd be amazed. Life has not been easy, but she's had the most positive attitude towards it all. She is living life to it's fullest despite the lonliness - and most of the time I think she's pretty happy.

There are many other things I could tell you, but really I'm just thankful that we had you around as long as we did. We all miss you dearly but look forward to joining you someday. Until then, we have lots of living left to do and we rest in the belief that you are in a better place, warming up the sofas for us! Don't worry about mommy - we've got her covered. In fact, we're fighting over her all the time. You taught us to value her, respect her and love her unconditionally - and it's a good thing you did that.

Miss you and love you lots,
Deanna

Sunday, March 02, 2008

Bottomless Pit

I think our house is really just a bottomless pit of kid junk. I'm sure my junk is in there somewhere, but it seems as though the surface, the volume and the bottom of every pile has a K or E on it somewhere. It's endless, it's contagious, it multiplies exponentially and as hard as I work to eradicate it, it's like Kudzoo.... there is just no end to it. Even when I give in and throw it all away I find more. How does this happen??? I ask myself, as I sit here on the sofa with a birthday party "goodie" bag next to me... that's only the beginning! ;-S

Congratulations, A&F!

Yesterday, T and I had the privilege of attending an amazingly fun celebration - the wedding of the couple we went through some months of pre-marital counseling with. Aside from the typical pre-wedding craziness, the day could not have been more perfect, more fun, and incredibly emotional. I am so excited for this couple, in ways I've never been at a wedding before. I don't know that I've ever been so invested in a marriage or so excited about how much potential two young people have together to change the world. I consider it an honor that they chose to involve us in the way that they did and am so excited to watch them grow together!

Saturday, March 01, 2008

In Like a Roadrunner?

So, the first day of March. It's a funny weather day - beautiful looking from inside, fiercely cold and windy outside. I wouldn't say it came in like a lion or lamb, but maybe a roadrunner. You'll just be walking along and then this huge gust of wind brushes by, almost like something went speeding by you. So, if it's in like a roadrunner, will it be out like a turtle? Who knows!!

Friday, February 29, 2008

Happy Leap Day!

What a strange day.

Back in the Olden Days

I was chatting with a friend last night on google chat about life before computers or the internet, a life this person never experienced the same way some of us did! She then made some comment about how I walked to school uphill both ways with shoes that were too small.... and I said, "Well, I did!" She probably thought I was kidding, but I really wasn't!

Other than the fact that I grew up in Connecticut on the "Gold Coast", I would never have considered our family rich by any stretch of the imagination. When I was younger, my mom stayed home with us and my dad was a teacher. I wore hand-me-down clothes or sometimes clothes my mom made (not as uncommon as it might be today!) and I'm sure I wore plenty of shoes that were too small for me.

We were "walkers" and each day, with a group of kids from my street, we walked about a 10 minute walk to school. It really wasn't far at all, in fact, you can look down our small street and see the rather large, ominous "Ratfield Penitentiary", our petname, up on it's little hill. Having lived on "Church Hill" with only one house separating mine from the church, you might imagine the hill it sat on. We basically descended, crossed a busy road, walked down a side road, crossed a smaller street and then either walked up a small hill or a huge stairway to get to school.

On the way home, we descended those same steps, retraced our route and huffed and puffed all the way up the church hill, being ever so careful not to step on any cracks lest we break our mother's back! On the way up, we'd occasionally stop with our own back breaking backpacks to rest on people's yards (nowadays, we'd have been arrested for that!). When we finally reached the top, we'd cross the street at the top of the hill, unattended, and head for home. It's a journey that I doubt kids make alone these days, but we did that every day.

What was the worst thing about walking uphill both ways in small shoes? Probably the fact that it was close enough that my mother rarely felt the need to pick us up, even in the rain and snow. Other kids who lived farther would have cars waiting for them on those days. So many cars that I don't think my mother wanted the hassle of figuring out where to park. Not to mention, she had my little (annoying) brother at home! So, we conveniently had "rubber boots", you know, the kind that you put over your shoes. Well, maybe you don't know! LOL

Of course, all this was back before weather.com, before my mom spent any amount of time doing anything resembling blogging or surfing the net. You know, back in the olden days.....

Planning Ahead

Em was quite distraught all day today about her beta fish. The fish bowl needed cleaning and she was worried her fish might die - a bit melodramatic! She burst through the door this afternoon sobbing that she had so much homework (not true) and she'd never be able to do it all AND clean the fish tank with daddy.... it was quite a show, sorry you missed it!

Once we completed the dying fish that she's allergic to conversation, she and I went off to shop for dinner. In the car she says this:

"Grace, my safety patrol, told me about these window suckers that clean your windows."

At this point, I've moved on and I'm wondering why I've never heard of window suckers - I need some of those!! She continues,

"She also said we could get a filter. You know, at Petco."

Then I realized we were back on the subject of our dirty betta fish tank... UGH! I just let it go.

From there, we progress to this conversation on the way home:

Em: "If my fish dies, I want a rabbit."

Me: "Well, if you get a rabbit, you will have to take care of it yourself. I can't help you because I'm allergic to rabbits and so is your sister."

Em: "Well, OK, if I can't get a rabbit, how about a snake?"

Me: "Uh, I think you need to ask your dad about that."

Em: "Maybe I shouldn't get an animal that I'm really afraid of. That might not be a good idea."

FINALLY, some semblance of reason!

Em: "How about a horse?"

Thank goodness we got that tank cleaned tonight! =)

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Quiet

I'm surprised it's been so long since I've written on here. Being an ISTJ, I've written many a blogpost in my mind, just haven't gotten around to actually typing it in here. Sometimes for me, when it's done in my brain it's done.... sorry!

Here's what I've got cooking:

1) 24+? members on our Hungary team, traveling to Vienna, Austria, on to Sopron, Hungary to run a program for European church planters' children while they attend a conference, meeting up with the Cameroon team of 15+? in Paris. Last night I spent a good deal of time hunting down Youth Hostels for our large group. Honestly, the prospect of staying in one with my children give me the willies.... but the Holiday Inn T's Cameroon team stayed in 2 years ago at the airport - they were awesome! - can't accommodate that many. I understand, but it still makes me sad. T won't let me call Disneyland Paris... I wonder why? hehe

2) T's and my anniversary (15 years!) is July 30. We'll be somewhere in Hungary for that, taking care of about 50 kids. So.... we are doing something we've never done before. Hard to believe! but my mom has graciously agreed to spend the beginning of her spring break with our girls so we can escape to Florida, namely Miami, hopefully Key West.

3) Trying to get back into a workout routine, but I'm just not a cold weather person. It's been a real challenge for me. I'm not a very disciplined person to begin with, unless I have built in something. I haven't done that here, but it needs to be done!! This week, Aspercream and Advil have been my two best friends! =)

4) Summer camp.... why do we have to sign up so early?

5) Wedding.... our premarital counseling guinea pigs are getting married this weekend, and with last weekends bad weather and everything from last Friday being pushed back, organizing that has been crazy. Now all we need is to throw in something like the stomach flu, which is making a comeback all over the girls' school. YUCK!

I promise a much more entertaining next entry... just thought maybe I had some 'splainin' to do!

Friday, February 22, 2008

Wet Day?

Well, the girls are home, everyone's home!! There is less than an inch of snow outside, slick driveway, wet streets. Hmmm.... someone's going to pay for this if that's all we get!! It's not even drizzling outside. Nothing, nada, nunca! At least I got to sleep in! =)

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Winter Storm Warning

We are no longer watching, but forewarned about our "big snow event" tonight into tomorrow. I'm hoping it doesn't happen, but assuming it will! I'm still making my kids go to bed on time tonight because the last time they said this we woke up to nothing!! Another time, it just rained!!! So tonight, I'm sure with their pajamas on backwards, it's off to bed while visions of snow days are dancing in their heads...

Morning Madness

Our morning started out just fine. T made eggs for everyone, I made lunches, the girls were up and ready early, backpacks ready to go. At 3 minutes to 9, Em says to me, "My parent tooth and my baby tooth are still in my mouth." She has been mentioning this "parent" (or adult) tooth for a couple days, so I asked to see it. Sure enough, it was coming in way behind that baby tooth. I told her we'd have to get that baby tooth out soon and she asked how. I said, "Just keep wiggling it until it's loose enough. If we don't get it out, the dentist will have to."

I'm not sure if she took "soon" extremely literally or if the word dentist scared her, but she went and pulled the tooth out right in front of me! Blood everywhere, crazy look on her face, running to the bathroom, lots of paper towels.... it was quite a scene! Almost prime time TV quality in my opinion! Em now has a gaping red hole where that little tooth was. I sent her off to school (I cannot believe we actually made it to the bus stop!) with a paper towel. Clean - the others are all in the garbage, in the aftermath of our morning madness. For all the whining she does, that child sure does have a high tolerance for pain! The only thing she said was, "I'm totally shaking!"

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Not Your Parent's College!

The WP ran an article today about my parent's alma mater, The King's College. When they attended back in the '60's, the campus was in Briarcliff Manor, NY in an old golf resort turned college. It was a BEAUTIFUL campus. Through the years, they lost that property, tried to move to another location and eventually relocated in the Empire State Building. Strange, but it's nice that it's still alive, so to speak. I'm really surprised to see an article about them in DC, but kind of fun. Interesting to see the history of that college moving from suburban liberal arts to completely urban college.

As a side note (that any alumni from that era would appreciate) my aunt sent me my father's freshman initiation beanie from Kings. As a joke, my brother hung it in my kitchen and I haven't taken it down yet, despite repeated outcries from my mom to throw that horrid thing away, as it holds some awful memories for her. They have nothing to do with my dad, but everything to do with some kind of abusive ritual.... sorry mom, just can't bring myself to throw away a piece of family history! LOL

Birthday Update

So.... snow it did, ruin my birthday it did not! My day started out by T and the girls making me breakfast in bed - twice! T made his first fried egg (forgot to flip the first one and had to make me another!) and the girls were both up and dressed before 8:30 - that was two miracles before I even got out of bed. Oh, did I mention I got to sleep in a bit?;-)

Once the girls were off to school, T and I went shopping. A small miracle - I found a dress for a wedding, no small feat! And we only went to one store. Funniest moment of the day: T asking me if that had taken care of my shopping bug. LOL - men know nothing about women - 'nuf said!

From there, we ran a couple errands then had lunch at Mimi's Cafe. It was really good - we were both pleasantly surprised. We brought home the worst thing on the menu I could find - Chocolate Chip Pecan Pie - YUM! There's still half of that thing in the fridge. Between the two of us we could only eat half. We did that while watching my first birthday present, Becoming Jane. That was not the movie I thought it was, but it was still good. I'm not sure why I thought it was about a Jane Austen book club or something - is that another movie?? Weird....

After that... oh, wait. I forgot. While we watched that movie it was snowing outside. We got about 1/2 an inch total and the roads stayed pretty wet. That was nice - no big mess, buses getting stuck or anything...

Once the girls came home, we got started on dinner. We skipped gymnastics, mostly because we just forgot! Oops! Then fondue for dinner - that was an experience! Note to self: next time we have fondue with the girls, prepare something you don't have to patiently wait for so those savage hungry beasts will not whine all through dinner!! We enjoyed our dinner as well as our chocolate fondue dessert. Now the girls know why they've never had that here before. Hehe.

After dinner, showers and hair (wouldn't be a birthday if we didn't all get our hair done!), I got my presents. From Kt a Vera Bradley purse - my very first one! I love that (although I'm thinking of exchanging it for a smaller size with Kt's help!) and a 'Lil Kinz Webkinz from Em. I need that like a hole in the head, but she was so sweet getting that for me. Her doggies mean so much to her, so it was a really cute gift, especially coming from her.

Now, I'm writing and T is playing the Wii. I think he enjoyed his day off as well, especially considering it wasn't even close to being the full day of shopping I'd predicted! I'm now finishing up my laundry because I must have clothes for tomorrow. Thanks for all the well-wishes, everyone. I hear the eclipse tonight was awesome - I was too cold to go out (I'm such a winter wimp!), but I sent T out for a look. Kind of a fun birthday thing.... if only it was a bit more, er, tropical outside!

One last thing - my friend, Jeremy, who I only know from blogging, have not actually met, posted this on his blog - and it was the best birthday laugh ever!! Enjoy! Thanks JDR!

Happy Birthday to Me!

Snow Advisory

SNOW ADVISORY IN EFFECT FROM 11 AM THIS MORNING TO 10 PM EST THIS EVENING...

THE NATIONAL WEATHER SERVICE IN STERLING VIRGINIA HAS ISSUED A SNOW ADVISORY...WHICH IS IN EFFECT FROM 11 AM THIS MORNING TO 10 PM EST THIS EVENING.

AN AREA OF LOW PRESSURE WILL SPREAD SNOW ACROSS NORTHERN VIRGINIA... AND NORTH CENTRAL AND NORTHEAST MARYLAND LATE THIS MORNING...AND CONTINUING THROUGH THE AFTERNOON. SNOW IS EXPECTED TO REACH THE WESTERN WASHINGTON AND BALTIMORE SUBURBS BY NOON...AND THE WASHINGTON AND BALTIMORE METRO AREAS DURING THE EARLY AFTERNOON BETWEEN 1PM AND 3PM. SNOW ACCUMULATIONS OF 1 TO 2 INCHES ARE EXPECTED. HIGHEST SNOW ACCUMULATIONS WOULD BE ACROSS NORTHERN MARYLAND ALONG THE PENNSYLVANIA BORDER. SNOW WILL COME TO AN END THIS EVENING.

A SNOW ADVISORY MEANS THAT PERIODS OF SNOW WILL CAUSE PRIMARILY TRAVEL DIFFICULTIES. BE PREPARED FOR SNOW COVERED ROADS AND LIMITED VISIBILITIES...AND USE CAUTION WHILE DRIVING.


Yes, folks, 'tis true!! The snow's acomin' and there's nothing I can do!!

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Incremental Improvement

6am

26°F

Feels Like
20°F
9am

31°F

Feels Like
24°F
12pm

37°F

Feels Like
30°F
3pm

38°F

Feels Like
31°F
6pm

38°F

Feels Like
31°F
9pm

33°F

Feels Like
23°F

I'm noticing a tiny rise in predicted temperatures, but not enough to make it a fun day for me!! Originally, T was going to take the day off and we were going to go shopping (I just wanted to torture him a bit for my birthday! LOL), but we'll have to postpone that. I'd hate to be in the middle of trying something on only to find out my kids are being released early from school!!

So, what to do on a snowy, yucky birthday.... stay in bed all day and watch TV? I don't even know what's on TV during the day other than General Hospital. Lifetime?? Lifetime Movie Network?? Or maybe I'll just read and blog all day. Who knows.... maybe there's still time for an atmospheric miracle!

Happy Snow Day!

6am

26°F

Feels Like
21°F
9am

32°F

Feels Like
25°F
12pm

38°F

Feels Like
30°F
3pm

39°F

Feels Like
29°F
6pm

37°F

Feels Like
27°F
9pm

37°F

Feels Like
27°F

It doesn't get much worse than this for a birthday.

Monday, February 18, 2008

Happy President's Day!

Today was surprisingly fun! T, after working 17 hours straight this weekend, took today off. When we woke up (ridiculously late!) it was already 66* outside - YIPPEE! We showered, put on our capri pants, t-shirts and sunglasses and headed off to DC. Fortunately, the double-decker bus credit card machine was broken and we did not bring $100 cash along, so we hopped on the Metro and went down to the mall. From there, we walked over to the Smithsonean Museum of Natural History. It was a glorious 5 minute walk in the warm sun - I even thought for a minute we ought to enjoy the outdoors, but we weren't planning to stay all day!

We spent a good three hours just wandering around that museum with hundreds of tourists. I remembered at one point that many of the school up north are off this week, which was likely one of the reasons it was so crowded - that, and it is President's Day! We saw dinosaurs, mummies, butterflies, insects... fossils, totem poles, and many other fascinating things. We also spent $30 on lunch in the "cafe" (as opposed to the restaurant!) on two turkey sandwiches, 2 drinks, 2 bags of chips and milk. YIKES! That's what we get for being really spontaneous!

As we were finishing up, we noticed that people were walking around with umbrellas, plastic entombed strollers, wet hair.... Needless to say, we knew an adventure awaited us! After waiting a bit for the downpour to subside, we bolted for the metro. Totally soaked and happy we had our Crocs on (LOL), we made it to the train with minimal wetness considering BUT very cold! I guess we ought to check the weather next time!!

Speaking of weather, I guess today's surprise is a precursor of what's to come. I've been watching the calendar for weeks now and every time I've checked my birthday (this Wednesday) has been cold but totally clear. Well, tonight is a different story. They are so far calling for a full day of snow. I honestly couldn't be more depressed about that. There is nothing I want more at this point than to be anywhere that snow is the last possible thing that might happen! I'm just really, uh, wishing today had been my real birthday!

Sunday, February 17, 2008

"Making Progress"

President and Laura Bush are traveling around Africa embracing the signs of "making progress" around countries who have used US aid dollars for fighting poverty, preventing malaria and AIDS/HIV programs. For all the negative things we hear about Bush, I happen to think it's a huge commitment he's made to that continent and one I'm happy to pay my taxes for. He has taken a stand on conditions in Africa - especially Sudan - that I agree with. While I've never been to Africa, I've heard plenty about it from our teams who have gone. Story after story is filled with hope, warmth, a resilience that we have little need to develop in our "safe" suburbs. We have a lot to learn about community from African nations and it's nice to know that we are helping in some small way to preserve future generations there.

Deja Vu

It's (almost) just like the old days. T's still at work. That will be going on 17 hours now. I wonder if they will buy them all breakfast?? The thing that's annoying is our dogs. One of them - the old one - has barked ALL NIGHT LONG!! So, it's bad enough that T has worked all night and gotten no sleep, I haven't slept a wink, either!! He's down there still barking, and when I let him outside he stood at the bottom of our back steps and barked. AGH!!!! Just shoot me now!

I'm really not a dog person and truth be told, I actually dream about having no dogs in this house. I'd much prefer a cat, but with allergies and asthma that is out of the question. If Em wasn't such an animal lover, I'd consider giving away these dogs today after a night like last night. Of course, I think I was the only one who was up all night.... Kt's and her friend haven't made a peep. That could be wishful thinking, though! ;-)

Saturday, February 16, 2008

Ironic

For 13 years T worked for Verizon as a DBA. Each year, he'd work on my birthday weekend - faithfully! Each year, it would get worse, longer hours, more weekends. Only one year did we actually go away for my birthday (which generally falls right around President's Day weekend). This year is his first year working at his new job. So far, any weekend work has been about 1 hour. We smile about it a lot. Until this weekend.

Here it is, President's Weekend, big Oracle release. He went in at 3, things are not going well, who knows when he'll be home, then he'll be thrown off all weekend. He also does not get President's
Day off (WHAT????), so what's worse about this time around? I get to have the girls all day while he's at work. I'm getting to the point where I'm thinking I'd like to pretend it's not really my birthday at all! (Can I stay younger as well??)

Happy Birthday, Jacks!

Well, I missed it by a day, but I did at least tell her HP yesterday!! Instead of blogging, I was subbing at Mother's Day Out, grocery shopping and making chicken fajitas for our neighbor with 6 kids. Quite an undertaking. Once that was done, I settled in for a movie with Em and Kt and promptly hit the sack!

For J's birthday, my mom made her a lasagne for dinner and my brother (who wasn't able to top the car he got her last year for her 30th birthday!) got her a new laptop. NICE!! I don't think we'll be topping that at our house for my birthday next week. That's OK, we didn't do the brand new car last year, either!! LOL

I'm really glad Jack's and I have our birthdays close because I used to share it every year with my grandmother (same day) and my father (two days after mine). Now that they are both gone, I still don't have to celebrate alone - well, maybe alone, but not by myself.

The funniest story about Jacks - she makes gorgeous jewelry, and we all know it. Even T knows it, but somehow when he was setting up an account for her and we told him to use "beader" he misunderstood us and used the word "beater" - and whenever I think of that, I just crack up!! What a goof! She's not a beater at all, but we've been wondering what T was thinking!!

So, Happy 31st Aunt Jacks!

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Maryland School Suspensions Up

This article mentions a rise in Maryland state school suspensions. I'm not surprised, as we now institute the "zero tolerance" policy in schools. I have to say I'm quite surprised that NOT ONCE in this piece does it mention that parents need to get involved or support the schools. No, instead the responsibility is falling on the schools and teachers to find alternate ways to change student behavior.

Personally, I believe if parents supported these decisions at home we'd see fewer behavioral problems at school. Instead, when kids are suspended the parents complain. I'm sorry, but if my child actually does some that warrants a suspension, you better believe they will be changing their behavior at school and it's going to start at home! By the way, having children who so far seem unlikely to be suspended, I'd prefer they are learning at school and the students who are not there to learn and are an interruption - I'm happy to have them suspended!! More valuable instructional time for my kids that they miss each day because of those who don't deem it important or necessary to obey.

Smiles


When your 10 year old daughter is asking you a serious question with blue lips from eating some kind of Valentine candy, it's just impossible to keep a straight face!

I Can See Clearly Now

I left work today and the sun was shining. The first words that popped into my head were "I can see clearly now, the rain (and snow, and ice) have gone"! In many ways, that song defines me. A doctor friend of mine once suggested I might have SAD, seasonal affective disorder, and I think there's some truth to that. I just get more and more depressed in bad weather.

Today, I'm feeling a bit more clear minded, level headed, happy. It's a little pathetic, but that's just the way I am. I guess I need to move to Florida or something!!

Is there a song that defines you?

Happy Valentine's Day

I hope you all have an enchanting Valentine's Day today!

After our scramble to make it out the door ON TIME today (no snow or ice - yippee!), I am now sitting here, in the middle of the messiest house you ever did see. I cry, moan, beg, threaten... I guess I'm just not assertive enough. I'll be cleaning alone again. Then making dinner. Then doing homework with everyone. Somewhere in there I will go to work.

Here's what I got the girls for Valentine's Day: an American Girl heart apron (each), baking stuff for cupcakes - YUM!, a small chocolate heart and a Webkinz heart bullfrog. I think they will enjoy their Valentines!

As for dinner, I have no idea what I'll make. I'm not really motivated to cook much but I think I'll just try something new and different - of course, nobody will like it. Maybe that's why I'm not motivated!! They'd all be happier with a pizza! Then we'll make those cupcakes. Then we're watching No Reservations (after the girls go to bed!). T wanted to watch it last night, but I opted for tonight - I'm pretty sure he didn't know why. I mean, it IS Valentine's Day!

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Birthday Wishes

If I could choose anything at all for my birthday, it would likely be to go on a Disney Cruise. Especially in February!! Of course, at this point, in the middle of an ice storm, I'd be happy with being anywhere warm. I loathe cold weather - snow and ice just make that loathing more pronounced! So, I just spent a little time vicariously going on a cruise while reading that lovely CNN travel article about them. Just because I'm a dreamer, I also have the Disney Cruiseline Planning DVD, so I've already chosen my cabin.=)

Too bad my husband won't step foot on a cruise ship.

Monday, February 11, 2008

Here We Go Again....

Tomorrow, Tuesday, expecting snow, I have to work, my kids are home from school (primaries).

Someone PLEASE send me to a tropical place before I freeze into a iceblock and shatter into a million pieces!

Monday Morning Funny

This morning Em crawled into bed with me - again! This is becoming a ritual. She looked right at me with those very serious eyes and said, "Mommy, I have some baaaaad news. This morning, the radio said 'For Americans, the flu shot MIGHT * NOT * WORK!" I kind of chuckled and said, "Oh, really?" She replied, "Yes!" After a short, thoughtful pause, she asked, "Are we Americans?"

At that point I was busting up, and it reminded me of this past weekend when she asked me if we were Jewish! This girl is having a major identity crisis. But here's the best part: she is now thoroughly relieved that she got to the flu mist as opposed to the shot!! (Poor Kt!)

Thursday, February 07, 2008

Plans

Here's the way it typically goes down around here when we make "plans" to do something and dad's away at some Christian conference.....

Going to Connecticut - have planned this months in advance....

1. My mom's contractor called last Friday - he put a new ceiling in her bedroom on Monday/Tuesday....

2. They are calling for snow "showers" this weekend - around here, that could translate into a full-blown blizzard by that time!

3. The dog is sick.... so not calling a dog-walker to clean my house!

4. My sitter for the girls today... her daughter had a fever, and they went anyway, and of course, I couldn't leave work early!

5. My mom emailed this morning - she has a cold now, and my brother and his wife spent at least last night at her house (3 small bedrooms) because the hot water heater in their apartment died. The landlord apparently said to my sister-in-law (in Connecticut!), "Well, you have cold water!" Yup, uh-huh... have you checked the temperatures up there lately? I have.... daily for over a week! I'm not taking any cold showers up there!

6. Still no word on whether or not the landlord decided to fix that hot water heater!

7. It's almost midnight and I'm still not packed. Partly my own problem, but I've been drying the same load of laundry for 2 hours and my dryer doesn't seem to be drying anything.... and that's where all the clothes are for the trip.

Kt's friend is here, and despite all of the above we will be leaving in the am to culminate her last birthday wish, which was for one of her best friends to visit her second home. Sometimes it starts with a grain of sand, layers of irritation are added and you end up with a beautiful pearl. At least that's what we're hoping for here!!

Wednesday, February 06, 2008

Oh, So Sweet

This morning I rolled over in bed and saw 64* as our outside temperature - which led to a big smile on my face. I had expected that to dip at some point today, but I just tucked Em in(to my bed!) and it still says 64*. It's been a nice, warm day today. I love little winter breaks, especially when it does not require any travel!! I know it will be short-lived as tomorrows high is only expected to be around 49.

Here's what I did on this unseasonably warm day: got up with a smile, made dessert for the teachers PTA dinner, took a walk with my MP3 worship songs, showered in a warm bathroom, ran dessert over to school in a short-sleeved shirt, saw my beautiful girls, got them off the bus on their half day, spent the afternoon outside with them in the balmy but damp 70's, got them over to gymnastics in the wind, ran down to their school for a 6:45 conference and it was still 67*!, then came home. Just walked the dogs with no coat on. How sweet is that? Now I'm just hoping it doesn't all end with a tornado!!

30,000th

So, appropriately, my 30,000th visitor was my mom. At least I think it was her. She tries to stalk me on here, even goes so far as to leave anonymous comments - LOL. OK, sometimes she actually signs them "mom", but I'm thinking we might need to get her to start her own blog. Although that could be dangerous when I vaguely remember all the damage she could do to her children on one of those. On second thought, we'll just laud her as my 30,000th visitor and leave it at that! ;-)

Tarantulas

For the past couple days we've been getting quite the education about Tarantulas from Em. Last week, she had a reading book all about them and really absorbed a lot of information, which she obviously found fascinating. I happen to think it's fascinating that a first grader can gather so many facts in such a short, tiny reading book - 20 pages, 265 words! Oh, and the map.

T left last night for Florida and Em has been relentless in her concern for his safety, seeing as tarantulas live in that region! She has been warning him about them, their shape, their abilities and even the fact that they like to hide in plants much like the ones in the bedroom she assumed he'd be sleeping in at our friend's house. Every time we mention daddy and his trip, we learn one more thing about those scary, dangerous creatures.

This morning, Em crawled into bed with me and I assured her that daddy was safe in Florida AND having lots of fun. She very seriously said to me, "Well, at least he's not paralyzed!" Being 8 am and still a bit groggy, I asked her to explain to me what she meant by that. She then said, "That's what happens when tarantulas bite you!"

Never again will we be able to visit a tarantula region!

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

You know...

Condi, it's not to late to jump into this mix. I mean, nobody is really winning or anything! ;-)

Friday, February 01, 2008

Day Off

So, last night I put into practice something I've been needing to do - I said no. I felt a twinge of guilt, but I've been planning this whole day off thing to get my stuff done for a couple weeks. It's a much needed sabbath!

Off to bed I went, not a care in the world, dreaming of my day at the gym, then home for some relaxin....

All a dream, I tell you! I was up all night with a stomach bug, then the girls had a late open for school and now I'm ready to head back to bed. Thank goodness! I said no or today would have potentially been a train wreck - me sick, trying to find someone to watch the girls between 10-11, working with little kids and feeling really lousy.....

And the delay? I was up at 4:30 am (one of many times) and it was 35 degrees out. If there was any ice out there, I'm not sure where it was! All I see is torrential rain. Downpour. So, I guess we had a rain delay. And you know what that means? Everytime rain is forecast, Em will be asking me if there's a late open. I would bet a million on that one!!